Some of us moms really struggle to have a baby, for one reason or another, but this mom suffered three miscarriages, which is incredibly devastating for any mom, she had polycystic ovary syndrome, and felt like she could only dream of having a baby…
She ended up in her 40s, like so many of us women do, and wondered what to do next, before its too late, so her with her hubby decided to try one last-ditch attempt at starting a family together.
The only way they could have their own baby was, in their eyes, to pay another woman to be the baby’s surrogate mother, and it was very expensive!
All went ahead and the day arrives when the baby is finally born, the couple felt that something was not quite right about the baby boy, and the woman’s partner felt like he didn’t want the baby… why?
The guy who remains unnamed shared how he felt on Reddit, he asked everyone if he was wrong for feeling the way he does, for not wanting the baby anymore.
The post has now been deleted, but it talked about how the couple was excited about having the baby together, but after he was born they realized there had been a whopping great mix-up!
Oh boy! Was it a mix-up indeed… as it happens the company dealing with surrogacy, and the sperm bank had in fact used the wrong sperm and the guy was not at all the baby’s father, not in the blood-related sense anyway.
The guy said this:
“So my wife and I have always wanted our own child. She is unable to carry a pregnancy due to her PCOS and has suffered three miscarriages in the past.”
“We paid lots of money to a surrogate in order to have our own child together. The surrogate was a nice lady who took care of her body and we got along very well.”
“My wife and I were so excited the day she gave birth but once I saw the baby I knew that there was something wrong. The baby had Asian features, black hair and brown eyes when we are both white, blonde folks with blue eyes.”
“We immediately brought up the issue with the doctors and asked for a DNA test. I am not the father.”
He went on to say:
“We are both really devastated over this and contacted the surrogacy and sperm bank and they did an investigation and told us that there was an ‘extremely rare’ mix-up and offered us financial compensation.”
“We don’t care about race, we are just upset that the baby wasn’t both of us. Am I the a**hole for wanting to take legal action against the agency and not keep the baby?”
Well over 4,000 commented on the post before it was deleted, many were angry and felt very cross about it, especially that he would not let the baby go to someone else if they didn’t want to keep him.
“Wow this is stunningly sad” …well we find it hard to disagree with this, do you?
Another person commented:
“As a man, I would feel hurt. I would feel partially emasculated. But if this is something I wanted, and my wife wanted, I wouldn’t waste the chance given to us simply because of the organization’s f*** up.”
A third said, quite logically:
“You brought this child into the world, you now have the responsibility to take care of it.”
We wish life was black and white, so to speak, but it just isn’t, life is more like a shade of grey, some commenters seemed to empathize.
“You seem to completely ignore the fact that they were trying for their own baby,”
And another also said:
“If they wanted just a baby, they could have adopted a boy or girl which might be cheaper than a surrogate mother.”
Whatever your feelings let’s not forget the baby is in the middle of all this, and the most important fact here, is this little baby, do you agree?